Question number 9
Does wanting makes us better people?
The Christmas scenery nearing, all the glistening eyes and kinder wishes make me wonder.
There’s so much to want, so much to buy. So much to wish for. I mean if I could, I would buy new accessories almost every other day. Lately with some cash-flow problems, walking through a very hip and trendy designer neighbourhood, I saw at least four items I put on my wish list immediately.
But did they only become so desirable because I couldn’t buy them right away? You got to make a difference between “need-to-have” “want-to-have” and “want-to-have-because-you-can’t-have”, right?
How many things you need to have is a discussion I will not get into, however what really interests me is how many things a person wishes to have.
If I walk through the shopping area it is almost impossible for me not to want any of those things.
I always admired people who could say, “well this is nice, but I don’t really need it” or even better, just don’t say anything, put it back in the shelf and not buy it. How do they do it??
And why does it cost me so much strength to walk past shoe stores?
Clearly, I would by a pair of shoes instead of buying dinner.
That’s a nice diet, you might think, but it can be kind of exhausting. How do you explain to other people you have no money left to go out for drinks or food but just bought a really fancy dress? And, especially in my case, how do you plan on moving from city to city, with always new bought stuff?
At a certain point of time full is full, whether it is the wardrobe, the suitcase or the moving box…
So what is the solution? Getting rid of some old stuff, you’re not wearing anymore anyway? Well, that’s what I tried, and I must say it was a nice try and I made some money with it too. (To buy new stuff, what the hell…)
So, for a minute there, I had more space in my wardrobe. But still, the suitcase stayed the same size, logically. I came to Barcelona with the most minimalistic wardrobe EVER. And how am I supposed to stay nine month here without buying anything? I mean that’s just cruel.
Finally my answer to that (I must admit, very luxurious) problem would be to own a place with a really nice walk-in closet, where you can store all your sweet little purchases and where you can pick your favourites for travelling and all the rest of them wait nicely put in their place until you come home.
Anyway that’s what I want.